A little dose of Instagram, Facebook, or Snapchat, and we see the creamy, superficial images of our friends, classmates and adored celebrities, then the green-eyed monster, jealousy starts raising it's ugly head, making us feel like a piece of sh*t. I personally have suffered a good measure of pain from comparing my life to people that are half the globe away from me, especially seeing how hard I work and how they have what I want, it's definitely taken me backwards, I managed to overcome it though, and you can too, here's the saving grace list.
1. Quit seeking more to compare about.
If we're being honest with ourselves, we know precisely the type of pictures and videos that stir up that ugly feeling within us, the best thing to do is to quit going for those posts and those accounts, it's definitely best to stay away from what will hurt you even more, instead of using your data to get more to make you depressed, just do yourself a favour and quit it already.
2. REMEMBER THE FILTER FACTOR.
Seth has called the internet "the envy amplifier" and that's very correct. When we see other people's glamorous, happy, perfect pictures on social media, (celebrities and friends included), what we don't see (because they don't post such), is that they deliberately handpick the specific pictures they post out of hundreds of others, choosing the ones that portray them the most happy, wealthy and beautiful, .I do that, you do that, so what makes you think that other's don't do this too? So before even using the smoothening/beautifying filters on most of the social media apps, they filter the ones they want you to see and hide the less glorifying candid shots. People's lives are really not as glam as they portray them to be, so don't let the little filter trick steal your joy okay? Great
3. Don't compare your behind the scenes with other people's highlights. With the filter factor we talked about, its clear that we are not seeing the real picture or even the whole picture. When was the last time you saw someone's picture of them just waking up from sleep with their squeezed face and red eyes? You hardly see a picture of someone fighting with their spouse, all you see are sucked in stomachs, pouted lips, and well planned out happy shots, so you shouldn't compare your reality to their highlights. Just see those posts for what they are if you must even see them
4. Turn envy into action. When something stires up envy within us, it's not much about that thing but it's about us, it affects us because there's something latent in us that seeks to be expressed, we look at what others have and we wonder if we would ever have that, we get jealous because it's what we want. The truth however is that we can have whatever another person has, no matter how huge it may seem to us, it's however not a good reason to want something just because someone else has it, if we keep doing that we'll get lost in the mix and we'll be living another person's life. The thing to do is to use the envy as motivation and a definite sign of possibility. The fact that someone has something means that you can have it too, period! Instead of wallowing in anguish, charge your powerful brain to come up with creative ideas and means of getting where you wish to go.
5. Focus on yourself and your goals. Enough about others already, let's talk about you! Don't you think you deserve the same dose of attention that you give other people's lives? Channel that attention to you and your goals, you are your primary assignment here on earth, hype yourself, praise and bless yourself, admire yourself and use all that social media time to think about and work on your own goals, because you see, the best contribution you can offer us here is to be the happiest, richest, healthiest you that you can be, and wasting away your precious time online doesn't get you closer to your goals. Use the data to research ways to make your dreams come true and search for only empowering and motivating content inline.
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